How stop stressing about your wedding planning
So you have a 9-5, people on your back, your workload piling up and now, wedding planning has started to take a turn for the worst. I bet even if you aren’t at this point right now – just reading this has your blood pressure soaring!
We know planning a wedding is one of the stressful things you can do, but stick with us and you will learn stress management tips that has helped lots of our brides! No need to thank us – we got your back sister!
Pat yourself on the back
At least once a week, note down all of the things you have completed that day, and keep hold of them. When you’re having a funk or a bad day, you can remind yourself of how far you’ve come already, and in fact you are doing an AMAZING job.
Ultimately its really important to get outside at least once a day and its really important for your health to get some sunlight and some fresh air. The NHS recommends 150 minutes of physical activity every week, and although that ca be ambitious for those that may work behind a desk, trying incorporating some physical exercise into your week by doing things that you enjoy. Exercising with friends will also make sure you stick to it! So grab your bride tribe and get outside!
Don’t crash diet
We know you want to look your best on your wedding day, but its not recommended to attempt to lose more than 1-2lbs a week. Not only that, but severely restricting your calorie intake will cause your body to go into starvation mode, and will cause your body and mental health to suffer.
Get enough sleep
Sleep is actually 1000 times more important than a lot of people give it credit for. Make a sleep routine and try your best to stick to it – sooner or late your body will fall into a natural rhythm of sleep and naturally, your stress levels will fall.
Spend time with your bride tribe
These lovely ladies (and gents) are your chosen squad for helping you plan the biggest day of your life, so why wouldn’t they want to help? They are likely people that know you well, that you naturally have a fab time with and that will always know how to make you smile.
Why not take some time away from your laptop and do some low-key hands-on planning with your maid of honour or bridesmaids? Meeting them armed with a list of things to delegate to them will enable them to have particular tasks to help you with.
Spend some time away from screens
Technology is an amazing resource present in our everyday lives, however they can also be a source of great stress. 10 minute expected email responses, instant messaging services, and malfunctioning technology can make you go from chilled to stressed in 5 minutes flat.
Not only that, but social media being so easy to access at all times makes a 10 minute task and hour long! (we don’t blame you, we’re addicted to memes too!)
Try starting off with having 1 -6 hours away from screens, and if you are dedicated to wedding planning that day, go back to good old pen and paper! Try doing a brain-dump of all things wedding floating round in that big beautiful brain of yours, then break them down in order of importance and when they need to be completed for. This will enable you to totally de-stress knowing that you’ve made your list and you’ve got time – you’ve got this!
Rediscover your happy
Wedding planning can so easily take over your life, remembering the wedding-free activities that you enjoyed pre-engagement will help you stay grounded and remind you that you ultimately, self care is sometimes just what the doctor ordered! Think bubble baths, exercising, walks outside, a movie day, massages, facials and shopping!
Don’t take on any unnecessary stresses
If you don’t want to go to that dinner party at your bosses house, or to go to coffee with that old college friend, learn to say no! Being firm and saying no to things that wont bring you joy will help you to reduce your ‘keeping obligations’ stress!
Communicate and be open
Talking to your bride squad and fiancé and sharing your issues is key to sounding off and reducing your stress and workload. As they say – a problem shared is a problem halved! Try going on a date with your other half, and calmly talk through how your feeling – they will probably be only too happy to help!
Keep it real
Learn to identify when you may be overreacting to smaller problems because of your stress-load and ask yourself if that particular problem is actually a big deal. Try asking yourself if that problem would still be such a big problem 3 months after your wedding. Still not convinced? Imagine your dream day in detail, your dress, your happy guests and your fiancé looking their best at the alter. Imagine tasting the food, dancing in your shoes and saying your vowels – feel calmer? I bet that problem doesn’t seem such a big problem now that you have re-centred yourself and imagined your perfect day!
Be your own best friend
No-one is perfect and if you make mistakes and put extra pressure on yourself, that’s a recipe for some nasty self-destructive self-talk. Its OK not to have a Pinterest worthy wedding, as long as you love your day!